Want to know a parenting secret?
Parenting is hard. Growing up is hard. You can’t escape the struggle.
Doing life as a parent is complicated. It is the intricate balance between too much structure and not enough, relationship and limits, independence and boundaries. And given that each child is a completely different individual, what one child needs may not be the same as the next.
Parenting is a difficult balancing of holding the relationship, setting expectations for helpful and expected behaviors, and providing teaching and learning when the behaviors don’t meet up with expectations. Parenting is nurturing, togetherness, and fun. Parenting is fostering independence and empowering the unique qualities of what makes each child…well…them!
Validation is a powerful parenting tool that is a part of many parenting programs.
So, what exactly is validation? Validation is the recognition and acknowledging the inner experience and feelings in the moment without judgment. Holding the situation and the internal response as a valid experience given the circumstances and the child’s history.
How often do parenting strategies and techniques work effectively and perfectly the first time you teach them to parents?
Not ever? Me too.
I'm Ann Meehan, an LPCC,