In the world of Play Therapy there are so many ways to tell stories. Bibliotherapy (which I talk about here, here, here and here), Sand Tray, puppet shows, art, aaannnnd nearly any other way- both with or without - your favorite toys and gear. As Lisa Dion would say - YOU are the most important toy in the Playroom!
Well, to add one more tool to your toolbox, here is an activity for telling stories that is perfect for middle school and teenage clients! The clients that you know still want to play, okay - still need to play, but play might look a little different. These are the difficult in-the-middle young people that need something a little more than talking but don’t typically respond to breaking out the puppets.
So, I want to start off with a little story of my own.
What seemed like eons ago - but was really 3 offices ago, (okay 4 if you count my pandemic home office) I fell in love with Story Stones - like these here, here, and here! I came across them on Pinterest and although the article was about homeschooling my mind definitely went to these being perfect for Play Therapy!
After going to the Dollar Tree, getting some nice flat rocks, and deciding on what symbols lent themselves most to therapeutic storytelling (taking inspiration from my Sand Tray miniatures) - I busted out my paint pens and went to town! I sealed these beautiful storytelling rocks with sprayable varnish and into a little bag they went.
As they found a home in my Playroom I noticed that younger clients much preferred the more traditional toys that my Playroom had to offer and I really didn’t connect the dots that older children might really get into these. Fast forward to pandemic times and I got myself some Rory’s Story Cubes after hearing fellow Play Therapists rave about them.
They are fantastic for Tele-Play where I roll the dice and re-arrange them (with client direction) in sequential order for the story. AND they have definitely kept my middle school aged clients engaged, which can be quite tricky virtually.
I am always a big believer with any technique of following the Golden Thread. Meaning, not just using these story cubes for fun or as a time kill BUT to meaningfully link to their goals. Okay - so here are the goals and techniques I find story tiles, cubes, or rocks MOST suited for (to name a few):
Now during my time with these cubes I was noticing I was troubleshooting several themes and difficulties.
The original Story Cubes are the darkest, easiest to see on Tele-health, and are by far the most frequently chosen. If you are investing in one pack I would go with the Classic pack - they are around $13.00. I found the other packs I was having to hold the dice up to the screen more and explain the actions.
I also found a lot of confusion with how to tell a story. I found I really needed to go over the basics of beginning, middle, and end. Also covering what the point of the story is and how to make it all come together. I find what comes naturally in the sand, with drawings, and Child Centered work needs to be a little bit more laid out.
AND I learned that if I gave a quick example first it went muuuuch better than if I explained it and let them dive in right away. With that I usually got the “ a sad man lived in a castle with a creepy shadow. One day a bee came and landed outside of a building. The sheep used a cane and said “I need to find the key” story that was over in less than 2 minutes. And felt more like the child trying to cram in the cubes rather than making and creating a story. And both of those together? Welllll... not very therapeutic.
I also found that sometimes it was good to see the first telling of the story as a “rough draft” and it was important to give it a second pass. I wanted the client to give it a go on their own the first round so the story could be authentically theirs and then “edit” the story together.
On the other hand some clients really benefitted form co-telling a story where I took one sentence and they followed with another. My sentences and story themes were always tailored to what I believed they might need within the story and using nonverbal cues as a guide!
Lastly, I started to develop “rules” depending on the young person and their goals for how the story would be told, themes, etc. After noticing the same questions, themes, and rules popping up, I developed them into this fun printable that is amazing for printing out and laminating. This way you can circle the rules that apply for that specific story and then just erase away for the next client! OR for Tele-Play you can screen share and decide on the rules together.
Want in on the FREE printable? Grab yours HERE!
Not sure you want to invest in Story Cubes? No worries - here are some completely FREE ideas here to give it a spin before committing. You can absolutely create your own with stones like I did with some paint markers and rocks or even easier yet? Copy and paste clip art into a spreadsheet or grid and either print it out and laminate.
For Tele-Play you can either email it to your client, screen share on a whiteboard, or share in a Google Doc. If you are going the Google Doc route please make sure that each client has a separate file (ie copy and paste the original) to prevent a breach of confidentiality if two clients are in the same document at the same time. To get the “rolling” element you can label each photo with a number and use 1-2 dice (most clients will have on hand they can borrow from a board game) to roll the pictures for the story. You could do an unlimited number of banks of 6 to tell the story!
Looking for something a little more, umm… done for you? Check out these free resources HERE, HERE, HERE, annnnnd HERE!
And, however you choose to story tell don’t forget to grab your FREE download HERE!
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First things first, I'm a little biased but.. isn't this client the CUTEST? Izzy is really getting her time to shine bright like a diamond here as an official therapy dog for this photo shoot. When this cute little pup became ours I had high hopes and dreams of her being a therapy dog I could take to the office. I did the trainings, took some CE courses, and it turns out.... field bread springer spaniels (at list this one) are not great therapy dog candidates. This was a GREAT lesson in radical acceptance of our Izzy just the way she is with all her unique gifts and talents.
Now that the introduction is out of the way, on to the tips!
My Tele-Play journey has exploded since last March, but it didn’t begin there. As I mentioned HERE I began my Telemental Health practice a little under a year before that point as a way to support clients in my transition from the Twin Cities to Duluth, MN. For some it was a bridging between providers and for others it has been a consistent way that we engaged in therapy.
Well…the 3-4 weeks I thought I would be practicing all virtual in March has (as I am sitting here typing this) turned into nine months. Nine whole months of Telehealth and Tele-Play. This journey has felt a little like a Dr. Suess book where I played in my garage (with a woodsy backdrop of course), the corner of my bedroom, and now a new home office as I transition living spaces! The office that was in the making two years ago and I never dreamed how much I would need it until now!
Since I have been at this for a bit I wanted to share some of my reflections and a little more of the informal tips as I have navigated this space fully for the last 9 months, and anticipate that it won’t change anytime soon.
If you and I were to sit down for coffee to chat (let’s be honest it would probably be virtual coffee right now) here is what I would tell you:
Have a great informed consent
Make sure that you are clear with parents and young people about what to expect and what their roles are. Some topics to be sure to cover is the specific platform, how they can login, where they can login from (ie only in your state depending on licensure and reciprocity rules for your license) backup platforms, way to contact you if they need to troubleshoot technology, who will be present during the session (the parent, the child, or a combination), what space sessions should take place in, how to maintain privacy, a plan for if technology goes down, ending rituals (mine is a “wave off” with parents so we can both be on the same page with exactly when the session is ending), and what materials the family may need to gather. For me I either have worked with the family to develop a play therapy kit at home or have sent kits HERE. We have gone over clear and specific rules about when and how toys will be played with and stored. Want to know more about informed consent? Check out this resource HERE!
Have a great safety plan
Have crystal clear information about what your role is should there be a crisis. Specifically, how you will react and what your plan is to keep them safe? For me I will call a parent if technology is down for two minutes and parents are required to be accessible by phone for the duration of the session. If the client has suicidal ideations have a clear plan that is communicated to the client about what steps you will take to keep them safe. If a client is not suicidal – you still need a safety plan! Think of things like if a child was choking or having a seizure, or if the parent was having a heart attack, etc. In the office you have control over how to get resources for help. Virtual requires an extra step.
Verify location each time
So, speaking of safety plans, if you don’t have their address in the moment any safety plan you have is useless! Oh, and sometimes (especially being in a boarder town) people visit relatives or go to the cabin in another state and even though you have clarified in your informed consent they need to be in the same state (if that applies to you) sometimes they forget and you don’t find out until they login. For a lot of clients, you may see the same picture in the background and you can easily verify they are at home with a quick “you’re at home today?”. I also HIGHLY recommend having quick and easy access to their address.
Have backup plans
Tech trouble happens. Ugh. More than we would like. I have had spontaneous updates on my computer, it shut down for some unknown reason, and the inevitable inability to login. Lately – on DoxyMe for a couple people my voice sounds like a robot for the first one to two minutes of the session and then we are business as usual.
So, when we are talking backup, I mean both another devise to login on as well as virtual platforms. I have a phone (although not ideal) that I can login to platforms should my computer be out of commission and I have two online platforms that I can move seamlessly between should one not be working for a specific client.
Be ready to improvise
Client logs in at Uncle Ben’s for their appointment? Maybe it is within the state at a secure and private location but…they forgot their Play Therapy kit at home. For young people who I do mostly Child Centered work with, I always have some directive Play Therapy techniques on hand I can quickly go to that will help with work towards goals.
Get clear on your boundaries
Also really be clear on and limits, rules, and structure you want to create around things like clients logging in in the car, having others present during session, client’s not having their face on camera, and the list could go on! When you are clear then your clients also know what is permitted vs not – setting you both up for success!
Get good ear gear
For some of us we like the large ear covers where we look a little like a fighter pilot. For me, I prefer ear buds. Okay, here is where it gets a little TMI. Sometimes my ears get a little itchy. I guess that is what wearing these sometimes for 9 hours per day does. I like to immediately take out my buds between sessions and have found that these covers HERE allow my buds to stick in a bit better. Also – never underestimate the power of sanitizing your ear gear!
I am very pro headphones because it minimizes any feedback that can happen. Although it is best case that both you and the client are wearing earbuds, most of my children don’t wear them as it restricts movement. However, I also take those babies out the moment we click off to give my ears a chance to rest.
Oh, and I would recommend a backup set unless your headphones stay at your desk! I once lost my earbuds for two weeks and it was a bit stressful tearing apart my house to find them and waiting for Amazon to deliver me a new set!
Get good internet
There is nothing worse than video being dropped and glitching. Whatever you need to do to get the best internet signal you can is completely worth it for the quality of therapy you can provide to your clients. A good router, ability to plug right into the wall, and boosters will be your best friends.
Lighting is key
As someone who has moved around offices a bit, finding the right lighting is always the first step in a new space. When I most recently moved home office spaces I (of course) chose the space where the sun beamed in my face for the first 3 sessions of the day. Day two involved a desk move and MUCH nicer and softer lighting.
You want lighting that is not too harsh, not too dark, but just right. Kind of like goldilocks. All of this is not so you look photoshoot ready, it is so the client has the best ability and chance to read all of the nonverbal cues you are giving them.
I did order a ring light HERE for extra lighting. This one had pretty good reviews and a low price point, and for the times I have needed it, it has provided great light! It has a warm and cool light setting. AND I found out (after purchase) that it has panda ears, so that’s a win.
Organize, organize, organize
My Tele-Play life got SO much easier when I got really serious about getting a new desk and had plenty of space to spread out the things I needed. Our nervous systems work extra hard trying to decode dangerous from safe when we sift through clutter you are actually more relaxed when you go into a neat and organized space.
I am not only talking about paperwork but toys too! I found that life got so much easier when I paired down my available Tele-Play toys to having one of the kits I sent to clients for Tele-Play and a select few Cognitive Behavioral Play Therapy toys like my big feeling eaters, Uno, and Mindful Kid Cards.
This sometimes can be a hard one! In full transparency because I write my notes between sessions, there are always emails to check, and things to do, sometimes it can be hours before I stand up and move.
Tuning into our bodies and understanding what we need is key. Sometimes it is intentional movement and stretching and other times it is a drink of water or some mindful breathing. During session my favorite go to strategies are a weighted lap blanket and a grounding object. I have several stones I have picked up on hikes and at the beach and sometimes just holding the physical object can help ground you to stay present with your client.
Be curious about play themes
I have found that Tele-Play offers so many rich play themes that one might initially interpret as “resistance”. Like, going out to sight of the camera or covering the camera up? Could this be a play theme of power, a new age “hide and seek” or playing out the difficulty with the distance? Coming close to the camera and then going far away could also be relational and distance themes. What about the kids to scare the living daylights out of you by putting something really scary up to the screen? I have SO enjoyed seeing how play themes shift in the virtual space.
Have a good referral source
This last one is a bit painful. Really painful. What we know is that research has found virtual sessions as effective and in some cases more effective than in office therapy. And, the hard truth is that some clients have such an intense difficulty with virtual and will need in person. I trust that each therapist carefully weights the pros and cons and makes decisions that are best for their practice and clients. For me it was all virtual. If a client is struggling it is SO helpful to have an in-person referral resource on hand to refer to should you need.
As I am reflecting on these last nine months, Tele-Play is such a mixed bag. I talk about my gratitude for Tele-Play HERE. There is so much to be grateful for and Tele-Play has pushed me to be more creative and thoughtful about my practice.
And, some days I feel sad, missing the in person nervous system connection, and missing the comfort of the Playroom. Some days it is the frustration of misattunement with a client when you can’t really tell if they are crying so you have to ask. OR when they are a wee bit back from the microphone and everything comes out garbled so you have to ask them to repeat themselves. And who can forget the ever popular “I can see you can you hear me” ritual that happens during logins.
I know we will ride this wave and someday my Playroom will open. But until then I will keep on (virtually) playing on!
So…if we were actually having a coffee chat, what would you share with me? Spill your BEST Tele-Play tips and reflections in the comments!
At this point in the Tele-Play journey, it kind of feels like we all need to be earning badges.
I’m thinking along the lines of badges like the having a pet interrupted your session badge, throwing yourself together 2 minutes before the top of the hour badge, the “I can hear you, but I can’t see you” badge, the roller coaster room tour badge, and my personal favorite – the complete tech crash badge!
And if you have been in this for the long haul (like me since March) you really need to get yourself a Tele-Play sash to display all your badges.
As COVID-19 numbers are climbing and things are getting even more unprecedented (ugh…I didn’t know that could even be a thing), Play Therapists are ramping up to begin to return to virtual, start virtual for the first time, or are plugging away at the Tele-Play marathon – like this girl right here!
I wanted to do a roundup of my most favorite resources from The Playful Therapist Blog as well as the other brilliant Play Therapists around the internet to help energize and support you no matter where you are on your journey! I found I was sending these resources to supervisees and wanted to share them with you too!
Let’s dive in to The Playful Therapist resources:
Now, on to my most absolute favorite Tele-Play resources from around the internet:
BONUS: Dr. Katysue Tillman is a veteran in the Tele-Play space with over 7 years of Tele-Play experience! Although I can’t currently find any freebies or recorded courses she has available, she has put a TON of free trainings out for Play Therapists and usually posts and updates in the Facebook groups above! ***UPDATE*** Dr. Tillman has a YouTube channel where she has uploaded her first Tele-Play training as well as other Tele-Play Therapy videos! Check it out HERE!
These are my favorite and most used and recommended resources for a Tele-Play practice! What are yours? Drop your favorite free resources below!
AND most importantly - what are your favorite play therapy "badges" you have earned (without client information of course)?
Facebook is one of my absolute favorite places to connect with other Play Therapists, share ideas, get updates about trainings, and to get resources! Ohh so many resources!
And this week? I joined the Facebook world by creating the Meehan Mental Health Services business page. It's official! Check out my new Facebook page HERE and give it a like for good measure!
This is a place where you can get the latest blog updates, freebies, giveaways, sales, and resources straight to your newsfeed! Annnnd speaking of giveaways I will be giving away 3 prize bundles to celebrate! Check out my new page or join my e-mail list below for updates!
In the spirit of all things Facebook, I wanted to create a master list of some of my favorite groups and pages!
Favorite Play Therapy and EMDR Groups:
Favorite Facebook Pages:
Annnd for a little comic relief:
I'm hoping you consider adding my new Facebook page to your list of faves!
I've shared mine, now it's your turn! What are some of your favorite Facebook pages and other therapists to follow? Drop a link below!
I'm Ann Meehan, an LPCC,