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What Is Reality Therapy?

1/12/2022

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I learned about Reality Therapy in my grad school program and was instantly hooked!  It is described as a brief counseling approach and a client centered form of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.  The client centered nature of the approach is so important for children, who often perceive they do not have much control over their lives or have adults and systems making the rules leading to high levels of powerlessness.  
 
Reality Therapy allows children to become empowered to take control over their lives, make decisions, and evaluate the effectiveness of choices.  Through Reality Therapy children (and parents) can learn about what needs are driving their behavior in a compassionate way and help the adults in their lives have a deeper and nonjudgmental understanding for what drives behavior. 
 
Reality Therapy was developed by Dr. William Glasser and is based on Choice Theory. Choice Theory is based on the premise that we only have the power to control ourselves and limited power to control others. Choice Theory is the springboard for Reality Therapy, which is the interventions and implementation of Choice Theory in therapy.  

Want to learn more?  Check out this overview of how Reality Therapy works! 
 
Reality Therapy believes that all behavior is purposeful to meet needs. The 5 basic needs include:
  • Power: a sense of self-worth, expertise, and achievement 
  • Love and belonging: being part of something including family, community, group, peers, etc.
  • Freedom or independence: the ability to make independent choice 
  • Fun: a sense of satisfaction or pleasure 

All behavior is Total Behavior: 
  • Acting 
  • Thinking 
  • Feeling 
  • Physiology 
 
Distress and psychological symptoms are caused by: 
  • Unsatisfactory or non-existent connections with important people 
  • A disconnect between:
    • Quality World (where we store mental pictures or representations of wants including people, places, things, values, and beliefs that are important to you) 
    • Perceived world (our experience of the real world that comes through our five senses) which is passed through our Total Knowledge Filter (a representation of everything you know or have experienced in life)
  • Individual choices (behavior and thinking patterns) 

The goals of reality therapy are:

  • To increase positive connections with others
  • To take control of improving their own lives and make better choices to meet needs
  • Discover alignment between satisfying Quality World, needs, and behaviors​

The fun part about this? Reality Therapy is a wonderful theory that can be integrated with Play Therapy in a theory called Reality Play Therapy!  Techniques such as drawing, Sand Tray, puppets and so much more can help children explore how they meet their basic needs, gain control over their choices, evaluate choices, and process and explore different ways of thinking and acting! 

It’s something I have been working into my Play Therapy practice with children and adults since I first learned about it in graduate school and helps children and parents both have compassion for themselves as well as empower children to change and have power over choice! 

Drop a comment below and let me know if Reality Therapy is new to you or an intervention you have been using in your Play Therapy Practice!

Looking for a deeper dive into Reality Play Therapy complete with tons of interventions and downloadable workbook?  Check out this training HERE! ​
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4 Comments
Nicola Watson
1/18/2022 04:58:44 am

Thank you for sharing this fantastic insight into Relaity Therapy! Im so excited about this!! You have written so elegantly many thoughts and questions that have always whizzed round in my head - which I had no idea was a theory!!!

I’m currently run a nurture group for children who have suffered trauma and also training to be a counsellor on the side too! I am enjoying/learning so so much from your blogs. They’re so easy to read. I have been building up a bit of a folder of your blogs which have really helped me so I can keep looking back on.

So thank you so much for your amazing work. It’s really having an impact on mine

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Ann Meehan
1/18/2022 05:29:32 am

Hi Nicola! I am so excited that Reality Therapy feels like such a great fit for you! I'm also excited that you are growing your library of resources - so amazing!

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Carin Ives Clark
2/3/2022 06:21:39 am

Ann, I love your stuff! We had Dr Wubbolding talk to our class in grad school. I love the concepts and am interested in using in play. I have to admit I used a lot of CBT with play currently. Thank you again for sharing all of your experience!

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Valinda Sue Zimmerman
3/5/2022 08:03:10 am

Love you stuff!! Reality Therapy, CBT, and mindfulness are my main approaches. Keep up that good work you are doing for so many folks!

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    Hi, there!

    I'm Ann Meehan, an LPCC,
    ​RPT-S
    ™, and EMDR Consultant. I help therapists that work with kids and teens go from a place of stress and survival to inspired and thriving.  I give child therapists the resources, tools, and skills they need to be effective and confident in their practice!

    I am organization obsessed, coffee loving, playful therapist who is showing up for life in the north woods of Minnesota. 

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